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Daphne the agony aunt week 2: Fashion


Hello to all my lovely Disability Arts Online readers!

Daphne the agony aunt

Daphne sporting her new look

Yes I’m back – for the second week running.   And thank you to the three people who had the courage, in their moment of desperation, to reach out to me.  I hope my advice has helped and please, please do keep on writing!

As always I’m here to help you all.  To turn your troubles into bubbles and blow them away!

Talking about bubbly things, earlier this week I attended this amazing course all about Equal Rights – if I’m honest, I actually thought I’d booked on to a Ear Nose And Throat Awareness Day, but somehow must have gotten my dates mixed up. Anyway, it’s really opened my eyes! I mean, I had no idea that there are all sorts of invisible barriers, hoisted up by those without personal struggle or difference, erected just to keep you alternatives out!  And they’re everywhere!

It’s made me more determined than ever to support you to stand up – or stay seated – and fight against them.  Yes, let’s bring down those walls, just because you can’t see them it doesn’t mean they’re not there, I think I’m right in saying most experience blind people would agree with me on that one.  Charge ahead, aim for those narrow employment gateways, those hard to navigate health and safety guidelines, those completely inaccessible glass ceilings and smash them!  Bring them down! Burst through and brandish, for everyone to see, all your best bits!

And I’ll be there with my best bits too.  Fighting the not so nice Normals with every last limb in my body!

Now the first dirty, disgustingly prejudice barrier I want us to look at, that subtly discriminates leaving you all at a massive disadvantage to everyone else is the one created by the fashion industry.

How can you be expected to follow the latest trends when you can’t actually see what they are?  Or, you can see them but can’t hear the crucial advice that goes alongside the designs? How can you buy clothes to fit when you’re shorter, or taller, or walk with wheels? What about my stroppy senile delinquent friend, how is he expected to find clothes to represent him when he can’t even find the toilet?  Or all those newly identified people suffering with celebrititus, who’s designing clothes for them?  It won’t be easy, they’ll need to be on trend, appropriately skimpy, but also waterproof with those vital built-in pockets to accommodate their tissues?

Designers don’t seem to take you people of difference into account at all! No, they only seem to cater for fully symmetrical, standard bodies! But we can subvert them by starting our own fashion statements.  We can.   Let us start now. This very day.  For one of our best bits – something we all have   no matter what else is missing – is our head!

So, whatever your peculiarity, race, gender or age specification, join with me in trying a bit of Head Fashion!

In my multi-descriptive photograph you can see, or feel, my very own version of Head Fashion.  Though the look is expensive, it actually didn’t cost me a penny!  I simply took the summer theme of festival, utilised a household egg basket and decorated it with a few perfectly placed garden flowers.

Fun – tastic!

So why not have a go yourself.  Create your own Head Fashion – and post on the DAO Facebook.

It’s Daphne.

It’s Disability Arts Online

And it’s over to you….

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2 years ago

Let me just be the first to say ‘hats off to you’ Daphne, and by hats off I don’t mean well done, I mean TAKE THAT HAT OFF. I know that you are the one who normally gives out advice but let me have a little go… Try TK Max – they have baseball caps, flat caps and last week I saw a nice reasonably priced fez which I am sure by now has been snapped up. Real hats, traditional headgear. Wearing flowers on your head is the quickest way to attract wasps, swarms of killer lady bugs and pollen… Read more »

Joe Turnbull
2 years ago
Reply to  Patrick

Patrick thank you so much for getting in touch and pointing out the error of my ways. Of course when proposing a flower based head ornament I failed to consider those who have issues with pollen or have severe wasp based phobias. But just because you have personal green restrictions this doesn’t mean you have to stop being experimental with the way you dress. I beg you not to fall back on standard shop bought styles –allow your creative dress sense to blossom. Try literally turning your problem on it’s head by making it a visual statement. Go wild with… Read more »

2 years ago

Hello Daphne – just stumbled across your blog (no pun intended) and thought I would get in touch as I run a small bespoke demolition company. I could quote you for soft, hard, or radical attempts to break down those walls or smash through the glass ceilings. The invisible barriers might be an issue but am happy to discuss these too. If you are interested then you could fashion a reply…I love the head garden, by the way, ignore that other chap. I look forward to hearing from you. All the best, Dennis (Head Against Brickwall Inc)

Joe Turnbull
2 years ago
Reply to  Dennis

Hi Dennis, Thank you so much for getting in touch and for the complement! Although I think it’s possible you may have mis-interpreted my call to ‘bring down the walls’ you actually may be able to help the cause more than you think! For example you could really help us remove those invisible barriers by taking on a disabled apprentice, or worker. Electric wheelychairs are very powerful and could be a useful addition to your demolition business! Or think how employing an army of Blind Bruisers could save a small fortune on protective eye masks! Finally, can I just ask… Read more »

Christopher Burke
Christopher Burke
2 years ago

Dear Daphne. I sent this to the Editor but never got an answer so I’m kinda hoping you’ll see it and answer it if I ‘ut it here…. I’ve got Cerebral Palsy, Hydrocephalus, Dyspraxia, Asperger’s and Caetextia. All of which comes out in my face/posture – I’m a gnome, I should be sitting on a concrete toadstall, shouting ‘I Got One, I Got One!’ every time I catch a plastic fish! I’m going to encapsulate the rest of this so you’ll just have to accept the phrase ‘over a lifetime’ before I start… I’ve lived in London and Hastings before… Read more »

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